Another year, another compound of memories and experiences.
So many things happened this 2014, varying from degrees of challenges and intensities.
I believe in making them noticeable, and by that I probably mean readable. It is incredibly easy to forget what we have accomplished when we are down, even the little details that at some point really matter seem to scatter away when we need them most.
And so, in order to learn something valuable or to be thankful for what we have received, I believe in having a "closure" for a new and brighter beginning.
This year I faced some fears (still some more to be tackled) and let me tell you something: It is not easy to even notice when you are being a victim of your own fears. So I started trying to figure out the reasons of my own "No ways" as "Is there a genuine good reason not to be/ do/ go/ say something about X?" A lot of times it all went back to: "Well I genuinely thought/ was once told that..." and the answer had no real foundation.
So I rethought them all over again and nothing is truer than this: parents and the immediate society play an incredibly important roll in a child's life. It sounds obvious, I know, but just like a baby learns his/ her mother tongue, he/ she also acquires a way of thinking and looking at the world. Now, learning a language is a serious and challenging task at times. Learning a new way to think and live is even harder because undeniably we are bound to be left with nothing but ourselves.
This past year I tried an experiment: I committed myself to say YES to whatever life brought. There were many times I didn't want to engage but I stayed truthful to my word and... it really wasn't that bad. So it is true what they say: after all, if you do not try new methods, then how to expect interesting results? And like Emma Watson said on her gender equality speech. If not you... who? if not now... when?
What I take of
And never, ever mix them up. They are three very important points on a healthy balanced state of mind, body and soul. The perfect triangle. Keep things sacred and give them each the proper care. Is probably one the most important lessons I am taking from 2014.
They certainly can't be bought. I know some of them are more than obvious. But particularly numbers: 4, 5 and 9 speak to my heart as often enough I am drowned by the feeling of not belonging and it breaks me. Don't they seem to you as they are almost non - existent?
I am learning acceptance, (not quite there yet..) inspired by a quote from Wes Anderson's Hotel Budapest film when Zero is asked to describe M. Gustave:
Life is hard and there is no way around it. There are easier routes but they never really take you anywhere. E.g.: If you want to be fit, you have to put on the effort. The satisfaction of your results is only yours. The real change is the lesson. The quick fix is the fastest way back to the point of origin.
There is only one life, so it is our responsibility to live it fully and well. Stay true to yourself. Be genuine. Remain authentic. Accept your shortcomings and don't justify them. Embrace your mistakes, learn the lessons and move on. It is not about the fall, it is always about the way you recover from the fall. So do it gracefully.